Dating a man with an ex wife
Here you are, finally dating after divorce, and you’ve met a great guy! If you’re “meant to be” together, you’ll find your way back… He treats you like a queen, he’s fun to be around, and the sex is fantastic. You have two choices: believe your new guy and suck it up, or exit the relationship. Many of us have been there, but we don’t act out in manipulative and bizarre ways. After all, you thought your spouse was terrific at first, too, right? Does it encourage you to question how long and how well you know your potential new flame?When you’re dating someone who comes with a crazy ex, or more kindly and perhaps more accurately phrased, an ex-spouse who is acting out and interfering, what do you do? If there’s no basis in fact and you’re certain of it – you’ve found ways to “check out” your new heart throb, and beyond what you can find on the Internet – perhaps you can ignore it and hopefully, it will fade with time. What if your new guy lax about paying child support despite what he’s telling you? My suggestions, from personal experience: decide to stick around rather than calling it quits, be sure you know what you’re doing, or get out while the getting is good. ” Shouldn’t we pose a few questions, like – There are no easy answers in these scenarios and as many variations as there are people, couples, and divorcing dramas.
This issue becomes a monumentally stressful exercise for both of you--but sadly, who's reading this piece, you must be willing to look at your own psychopathology which has drawn you to this type of female, and keeps you addicted to the drama and chaos that's inherent in these relationships, or you'll screw it up with any reasonably healthy gal who tries to love you. Maybe she Googles you, stalks your moves around the Internet, trashes your reputation anywhere she can. Others may find this challenge sneaking up on them, when the date in question has been divorced for what seems like a reasonable enough time… If you’re anything like me, you’re wary of your judgment when you’re first dating after divorce. Maybe she got a hold of your cell number and she texts you nasty-grams. Some may consider this one of several potential dating red flags – likely to arise if his divorce is not yet final, if he hasn’t been divorced for long, or if there’s a legal action still brewing. But we’ve all read the stories and heard plenty – the enraged former spouse who takes their frustration out on whomever their ex is dating, at least for awhile. If the divorce came as a shock, if the spouse found out about a long term affair or a series of affairs, if the ex is constantly playing games with child support or visitation – – I can well imagine that a certain amount of “irrational” behavior may take hold.I hate to rain on your parade dear--but by the time all this is said and done, you could be carrying around tons of resentment you've stuffed along the way, so as not to appear If this is a fairly new romance or marriage for you, your Honeymoon period can easily become non-existent--a flimsy fantasy of what you'd anticipated it being, if it weren't for all this struggle that came with your. You've come to understand how toxic and tormenting his last relationship was.You've listened to him go on about it for hours at a time--and tried to be a patient, nurturing bastion of support in his upside-down world.