Dating for parents of autistic children
I'd love to hear from any of you in my situation (or who have experience with friends in this situation).
I love my kid, but autism is a scary word to most people, until they've met someone like my David.
In fact, only about 10 percent have savant qualities. ” This is what you’d say to the parent of a typical child, right?
It’s perfectly acceptable to say this to the parent of a child on the spectrum.
It's very endearing to see how she handles everything life throws at her and she keeps a positive attitude the majority of the time. I also have children from a previous marriage, I have 2 daughters about the same age as her son. Hi AJ, I think that when your children meet the most important point is to convey to them that his autism can often mask other capabilities.
I am sure that i have plenty of time before our children meet but i have no idea how to explain or prepare my girls to meet and interact with her son. People with severe autism have significant problems communicating and often display behavior that seems completely bizarre or inappropriate.
One good friend whom I trust implicitly (and someone who has a disabled child of her own) suggests I not tell a future dating partner at all.
"Just let him meet David, then explain that he's a child with autism.
That is why dating is often so difficult as people who do not have experience with autistic children often don't understand or know how to relate to you and your child and you will probably have difficulty relating to them as well.
So, in the spirit of National Autism Awareness Month, some of my friends and clients who have children on the autism spectrum decided to brainstorm a list of statements they wish people would and wouldn’t say. Don’t say: “Is your child an artistic or musical genius? ” We’ve all seen “Rain Man” and know about the extraordinary artistic and musical gifts that some individuals on the autism spectrum possess.
But the truth is that most on the spectrum do not have these gifts.
He's a fact of life and a part of my life and I wouldn't trade him, or his sister for the world. But I'm going to be dating a lot more soon (well, hopefully I am...) and I don't really know whether I should talk about my disabled kid or just talk about my kid and mention his disability at a later time.
Oh, please, don't for one minute think he's my dilemma, because he's not.